Release the shame and
find your freedom!

This course is designed specifically for people who grew up or were young adults in the christian church.  

If you remember messages that told you if you had sex then you were like bubblegum, chewed too many times or sticky tape that had lost it's stickiness, you might just be in the right place. 

Have you ever...

• Felt worried about wearing spaghetti strap singlets in case you caused boys to stumble?
• Felt like your desire needs to be pushed down to stop you from lusting?
• Felt ripped off that you played by the rules but never got the 'blessing' you were promised?
• Felt like your sex life being less than average is your fault?

Then this is for you.

Those fears, and others like them can come from what we call purity culture and it's had some far reaching effects. So, whether you're currently a christian, deconstructing in some form or ex-faith, this course has been created especially for you.

It's time to release the shame and find your sexual freedom and confidence!

The Shame-free S*x Course is made for YOU and we are keeping it real all the way. 

It's practical, realistic, and designed to help you find freedom.

Hi, I'm Meg Cowan

I remember feeling so much like I imagine you do right now.

• Bored, tired, over it and frustrated about my sex life and relationship.
• Like I was the messed up and broken one.
• Upset that I'd done by best to play to the rules and been ripped off.
• Ashamed that I'd not stayed as pure as I was told to and like maybe a broken sex life was my punishment.

It took yeeeears of work, study, pain and seeking help to get to a place where I felt freedom about my sex life and for so long I felt like I was broken. Like something was not normal. 

What I ended up learning is that actually, I wasn’t broken at all, and in case you’re wondering, neither are you!

Growing up in christian environments and purity culture we're often taught to think about sex in ways that completely turn our bodies off. Full shutdown mode.

I didn't want to see anyone else struggle to find the answers like I did, so I devoted myself to study, re-training as a coach and being mentored along the way by incredible people like Mark and Magli Peysha and Dr Tina Schermer Sellers.

I've been 1:1 coaching for years now on this topic and this course is where I get to bring together the most transformative practices that help people just like you to find sexual freedom and confidence, with a side of wild!

I’ve learned a bunch about what works and what doesn’t, and I can't wait to share that with YOU!

You've got to know to understand

It's not enough to read about healthy sexuality or ways to feel turned on, you actually have to know how to find that wisdom in your body. 

It's the embodied truth that really transforms us.

• Knowing and feeling that we are safe in our bodies.
• Reclaiming our agency.
• Feeling like our sexuality is an integrated part of our lives. 

When you've spent a lifetime suppressing your sexual self, it takes practice to learn how to come back to your body. 

Getting the right help

The church is not having the conversations about sex well enough yet, so if you're in church, just speaking to your pastor of leader is probably not going to help. 

A three-part Sunday series on sex is never going to equip you for the nuance and realities of sexuality. 

• It doesn't work to teach that sex is forbidden and then expect people to flick the switch into pleasure one magical wedding day....
• It doesn't work to give advice like 'take one for the team'. *cue vomit emoji 🤢
• It doesn't work to deny your body and intuition and more often than not it leads to resentment.

Whether you're currently in church or not, we need to examine the ways that those spaces have contributed to how we feel about sex, and crack the code on how to do better. 

Discover what is right for YOU

When you model your choices after what someone says you have to do, you're less likely to feel empowered about your decisions.

There is no one right way to create a healthy sexual ethic.

• It's super important to unpack this process for yourself, in a low-pressure space, to help you create a sexual ethic you actually want to embody.
• You need to explore the beliefs you hold true, the comprehensive sex education you need and the relational dynamics you value.  

A healthy sexual ethic that you have thought about and figured out  for yourself, taking in all the important factors beats a book of rules any day. 

To create a bangin' sex life you actually have to find the truth for yourself. Why?

There is a big difference between talking about sex and actually embodying sexual freedom.

People who find real expression and confidence around sex know that they need to establish personal agency - meaning, they get that they are fully able to choose what happens with their body.  I want to help you understand what that might look like for you and give yourself permission to own it.

Everyone has a personal preference and opinion about sex. 

What's good for one, may not be for another.  This is why you need to be able to identify how YOU want to approach sex. Most of the ways christians are taught about sex are black and white, with implied good and bad feeling toward sex or certain sexual acts. You need to discover for yourself what is in integrity for you and your relationship.

Most christian teaching about sex misses the mark and leaves out essential information. 

It's missing critical elements that have to be considered for healthy relational dynamics and wellbeing such as agency, effective communication and relational passion patterns. It's messy and it ain't right so we've got to find a way to hit the spot for YOU.

Think you're not ready?

That is genuinely OK. I want you to know this work is for when you and your body are ready.